Men fall in love when they give, not when they receive. You wash his clothes, you iron his shirts, and you make him dinner. He says he misses you even though he has no plans of seeing you. You tell him you miss him too. You love him but you’re unhappy. You’re in a relationship with a man who doesn’t treat you well. And now you want to know how to be a good lover, how to love him better.
The problem is doing all these for a man doesn’t make him love you. You mean well but you have one small problem. You’re acting like his mother. The challenge is that men are not turned on by their mothers. Stop doing that. It’s a bad habit that you need to change right now. If you want a man to love you as his lover and not his mother, you have to know this. When a man loves a woman, it’s his pleasure to love her. He enjoys giving to you, protecting you, caring about how you feel, and winning you over, not pushing you over.
A mother loves her son unconditionally. This is not a good recipe for loving a man. Real men are not looking for a mother. They are looking for a lover. Do they want to know they’re loved? Absolutely. The difference is that they want to earn it.When you give too much to a man, he turns child-like and disrespectful. He becomes too secure, which is great if you’re his mother but a disaster if you’re his lover.